Elizabeth - our daughter came up to me and was obliviously moved by something so I asked her what was going on, she replied "Dad said he liked my hair and usually when I dye or perm my hair he gets upset with me. It meant a lot to me that he said something nice about it." I said , "What are you talking about?! Your dad loves you and accepts you for who you are and he's always been nice to you." She said, "Yeah, I know but I want him to love and accept me for the person who I "Want" to be and not just for who I am."
*Parenting isn't for wimps.